For Men

  • Have the humility to recognize you don’t deserve her and the confidence to believe you are the best for her
  • Rejection is always unpleasant to say the least. But in my personal experience, I’ve found that the women I ask out—even if initially rejecting me—often come around. But ironically, when they are intersted in me, I no longer want to pursue them. I think when I finally get married, it will be either with a woman who says yes the first time or is someone I still like when they are a “convert” and come around after they reject me.

For Women

  • If you think a guy wants to ask you out—especially if you are not interested—give him ample opportunity to do so. There is a saying in Hollywood that also applies here: “The only thing better than a ‘yes’ is a quick ‘no’.” You can both move on after the rejection rather than wallowing for an extended period in awkwardness.

For Both

  • Uncertainty about the future after a reasonable span spent dating means that you should end the relationship out of respect for both of you rather than continuing to waste each other’s time. In other words:

When weighing the future of any relationship,
Bear in mind the following vocation tip:
If after a year you don’t know,
The answer—I’m sorry to say—should be “no”.